Why You Should Spend More Time Alone

Happy Friday friends! Since I am the queen of alone time, it always surprises me that spending time alone is a foreign concept for many people or something they actively avoid. I cannot stress enough how important time alone is, especially for women who are often putting themselves last. Spending time alone helps you appreciate yourself or deal with yourself, whatever you need at the time, and the more time you spend alone the more self sufficient, self aware, confident, rested, and happy you'll be.

If you feel like you can’t have fun or be happy if you’re not with friends or a partner, then this is a sign you have some work to do. Some people are naturally more self sufficient than others, and in some cases, too much self sufficiency can also be a problem. This might be a sign that a person has a problem asking for help, or that they keep people at arm’s length as a trauma response. I have to work on bringing people in as much as some of you have to work on being comfortable being alone. Either extreme is not good. Learning to spend alone and more importantly ENJOY time alone is healthy and will make you happier in the long run. Here are some great ideas for those of you just getting started on alone time:

Write Poems, Stories, Songs, And Journal Entries 

You might not think you’re very good at it or see yourself as a creative person, but that doesn’t matter. You don’t need to share these things with anybody. Simply see them as a therapeutic way to get your thoughts out of your head, and a way of getting to know yourself. You might learn a thing or two. You might even sharpen your skills and have fun doing it! 

Have A Movie Marathon

I don't do this one too often - zoning out in front of the TV and not moving for hours is not my comfort zone. I feel unhealthy and sluggish when I'm not moving for long periods. That being said, doing absolutely nothing occasionally can absolutely what the doctor ordered, If you’re planning a movie marathon, you'll want fast downloads from your vpn so make sure you do plenty of research. All that’s left to decide then is whether you’re going to go for a movie series, a director’s back catalogue, or an actor’s portfolio. My go to is almost always my favorite 80s movies - Dirty Dancing, Breakfast Club, 16 Candles, Vision Quest...the options from that time period are endless for me.

Immerse Yourself In A New Hobby

Try immersing yourself in a new hobby such as DIY home improvement, organization, paint by number, needlepoint, singing and dancing like you are putting on a concert, or playing an instrument. There are so many amazing free resources out there that there’s no way you won’t be able to learn a thing or two. Thanks, internet.

Take A Relaxing Bath And Pamper Yourself

Pampering yourself is the easiest gateway to spending time alone. I'mnot a bath person, but I know a lot of you are. Get yourself a bath bomb and relax. Face mask, hair mask, full body exfoliation, manicure, pedicure, all in the comfort of your own home.

Travel Somewhere Alone

Go somewhere you’ve never been for the day just to explore. This is such a liberating experience, especially since you can do whatever you want! I love driving off by myself.

Go For A Walk In Nature 

Nature walks are a great way to get fresh air and sunlight. Try to appreciate the little things that we look past in every day life. I am always doing this and creeping on other people's flowers in spring and summer.

Take Yourself For Coffee

Find a quiet corner of a local coffee shop and read, draw, or do whatever you like - just do it alone And these days, likely outside and at least six feet away from anyone else. Bring a book or a notebook and relax in your solitude.

How do you spend your alone time? Are you an alone time queen or just starting out?